Are you holding back from dreaming big? Do you tell yourself that you don’t want to be disappointed and that if you don’t expect too much it will hurt less? Did you know that you were born to live a life you love and that there are strategies and mindsets that support you in achieving it? In this blog, Dr Maeve Lankford will introduce you to the transformational tools to (re-)ignite your passion for a life you’d absolutely love living. Enjoy reading and many thanks to Maeve for sharing this soothing article with us!
We are almost half way through 2022 and you and I have created certain results so far this year. Whatever those results are, you are going to have certain thoughts and feelings about them and about your capacity to create something better for the second half of the year.
Many of us hold back on dreaming big because we don’t want to be disappointed (again?). We feel if we don’t ask for too much, we can’t be let down. But making the decision to dream big is precisely the starting point to lead us to a living a bigger life, a more expansive life that we absolutely love. As Stephen Covey put it
“you must start with the end in mind”
So whether you are delighted or disappointed with your results so far this year or have been holding back on planning any outcomes you’d love, I invite you to give yourself permission to dream beyond your current reality…
And I’m sharing three steps to help you begin building your dream life.
- Honor your discontent.
Discontent is an important signal from our soul that something bigger is seeking to emerge through us. Give yourself permission to notice your discontents and what they are costing you in terms of your energy, your confidence, your happiness. The whole purpose of these discontents is to light a rocket of desire in you for what you would prefer.
So harness your discontents by building a dream for what life would look like without them. And then entertain that dream! Allow it to live in your mind and heart as a true possibility. Notice your body and your emotions in response to that dream of possibilities. Does the feeling of desire heighten? Do you start to feel more alive?
That expanded feeling of aliveness is an important indicator that you are now on the right path.
- Practice repeating “Up until now…” to keep thoughts of your past experience from limiting your possible futures.
If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get the results you’ve always gotten. Pause for a moment. You’ll hear the old chatter that dictates every reason for not taking a risk. Listen, then pause. All these negative experiences and disappointments may have been true in the past. Now is the time to shrug them off. Your history does not determine your destiny. All your disappointments and regrets belong to a time that is ending at this moment.
Tell yourself that those beliefs and those results may have been true up until now, and now you are creating new results, with your dream and with your focus on outcomes you’d love.
- Consciously co-create with Spirit, and the impossible becomes possible.
If you know me and my work, you know that I believe we are Spiritual beings having a human experience. We have a side of our nature that is aware of the Infinite Intelligence that guides us always. We don’t have to do anything on our own. We can co-create the outcomes we love with Spirit, our Intuition, Love, Life, however you conceive of it.
Co-creation means you partner with Spirit to build the greatest life you can live. When you recognize yourself as a co-creator, you ask for guidance and break through the self-imposed barriers that have stood between yourself and your desires.
Begin each new day with gratitude and concentrate on a desire of yours that you previously believed was out of reach. Just for that day, act as if what you wanted was possible. Then see what transforms.
Here’s to your BEST LIFE!
P.S. Are you tired of the same old, same old?
Would you love to understand how to successfully transform your results?
I invite you to check out my Dream Builder Coaching Programme. This is a transformational 12-week programme that teaches you a reliable, repeatable, proven system of transformation that you can use again and again to create results you love. The next Dream Builder Group coaching programme commences on 23 June – find out more and book your place directly HERE
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AUTHOR: Dr Maeve Lankford
With over 25 years experience of working in people development and human potential, Maeve is a sought-after coach, speaker, facilitator and trainer. Specialising in leadership and self-leadership, team development, resilience and wellbeing, she is also an advocate for gender equality, particularly in Higher Education.