A couple weeks ago, I was writing about the comfort zone, that it is not a bad thing to stay there for some time, especially in times when you feel that things are too much. Today, I want to have a look at the opposite situation:
-> You want to become unstuck and move forward but you find yourself hesitating.
I will share with you a great metaphor which really inspired me – it’s from a brilliand psychologist Dr. Julie Smith.
Dr. Julie Smith
‘Imagine there are two trains. One looks comfortable and cozy, the second one looks shabby, not so safe. In the first one, they even offer you some refreshments and cushions so you feel comfy. Of course you will want to choose this train, right? So you will board on the comfy train. You are sitting there, enjoying the coziness, but the train is not moving. From the window, you can see the second (shabby) train coming and going, the passengers are boarding and leaving and they seem to be ok with their train. Your train, however is stuck and is going nowhere. So after some more waiting, you may realize, that in order to go where you want to, you will have to switch the train and use the less comfortable one… ‘
I imagine that now for you (as for me) hesitation arises, because it is not easy to leave comfort and safety to embark on taking a risk. This is the famous ‘leaving the comfort zone’ fear. We are afraid of the unknown.
If you are in such a situation, remember these little tips which may help you to overcome the initial fear:
ASK:
-> How do I feel now in this ’stuckness’ and where do I want to be in the future?
-> What are my good reasons as to why I want to get ‘there’?
… and when the fear of discomfort arises, remember that some of the best things happen outside the comfort zone. These experiences can both challenge you and help you grow. Moreover, the discomfort on the way (with the shabby train) will be temporary.
‘There comes a day when you realize turning the page is the best feeling in the world, because you realize there’s so much more to the book than the page you were stuck on.’
Zayn Malik
With love, Vero
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